Friday, January 30

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Wednesday, January 28


The month of January has literally been flying by. Excuse the terrible pun BUT it's just true. Our rhythm this month has been travel/home/travel/home/ get the idea. As awesome as our traveling adventures have been {visiting family, work conference, wedding} it is just so nice to settle back into a less hectic routine. Less pressure to get laundry done too, ha!

The last 2 nights, Adam and I have actually gotten to spend time together and unwind after our work days which has been a rare event so far in 2015. What has been fun though is realizing how much we have grown together through all of this month. I feel that we have been extra helpful towards each other and more thoughtful in general to accommodate our combined busy schedules. This included the adventure of taking our massive 12 foot Christmas tree down. 

We were home between our work conference trip and leaving for a wedding, that particular week we both happened to have a lot of night meetings or activities at work, the way everything worked out the only night we had nothing was a Wednesday and that was when the tree was going to have to come down - otherwise it would have to wait until we got back from the wedding. YIKES. I should add that this was all my own announcement to Adam of this timeline that I had figured out. SO. We spent several hours taking our tree down (it was easily 10pm by the time we were both home from work and started on this project). Adam would have rather gone to bed, I would have rather watched a movie or really anything besides cleaning up Christmas decorations. The reality however was that our tree was completely dead and dried out so it had to come down. By midnight the tree was dropped off our deck and out to the curb. The GIANT mess of needles just sat in our living room until the morning as a courtesy to our neighbors, who we Adam figured wouldn't be thrilled with a shop-vac being used at midnight. Give or take some moments of tension, looking back, that whole adventure had such high potential to be a disaster or result in two highly cranky people. What I love, is that we made it work, we were patient and kind - or at least tried to be which means now I can look back and remember "the time we took the Christmas tree down at midnight" and it's just a silly memory of something we might not ever choose to do again :) 
Our living room actually felt twice as big once the tree was down and Christmas was cleaned up. New year makeover and all we did was put our own stuff back in the room, win! Lots of other adventures and stories from this month to be told, but those will be other posts on other days. So for today, here is to a month of many adventures, late nights, early mornings, love, compromise, and thoughtfulness. Oh yeah, and a few days in warm, sunny Florida :)

Tuesday, January 13

A girl at a bar.

Each month, on the first Tuesday night I can be found sitting {usually} by myself at a restaurant. Now with no context this might sound like an odd way for me to spend my time but there is purpose to it. My church offers a monthly Bible study for young adults. Each month the topic changes, the restaurant changes, and usually the people change too.

I have led this Bible study for the past year and each month I have a period of time where it's just me, sitting at a table by myself in a restaurant full of people anticipating the arrival of my group. Adam comes when his own work schedule allows which drastically changes the dynamic of those initial moments of waiting. 

I am an extrovert by nature so I love being around people but I'm also not afraid of being's just kind of weird. When it's just me sitting on my own on these first Tuesdays, I find myself wondering more what others are thinking about me which is fairly self-centered to be honest. It's not very likely that the entire restaurant or bar is analyzing my aloneness, but it's sure easy to think that. 

I also find myself wondering if people will come? Am I prepared for the study? What else would/could I be doing if I wasn't here? Is this what it's like to go on a blind date and get there first?

Silly questions really, but it's always interesting to me where my mind wanders in those alone & waiting moments. Last Tuesday night was one of those alone kind of Tuesdays. The cool thing is that after those few moments of waiting and being alone it turned into a night full of good conversation & good food. We discussed an article on what it meant to simply our life from a spiritual standpoint and looked at what the Bible had to say. Check the article out for yourself if you like: Simple Spirituality

It's on night's like these where I get such a tangible reminder of how God is working in my life {and yours!} constantly. For as necessary as times of waiting and listening and being alone are, they are followed with times of community and purpose and faith-growth and it is through those moments or seasons where things might feel a little awkward that we get to better appreciate what the next day holds. God is good.

Monday, January 5

Ready. Set. Go.

As we went to bed Friday night, I consciously knew that the weekend would be busy, that laundry needed to be done, and of course unpacking...etc. What I subconsciously knew was that I would not really feel like doing any of those activities. With the preparations for Christmas in general & simultaneously getting ready to be gone for week, and now being back and getting back into the rhythm of daily life, I feel like there is always something that needs to be done. We are usually really busy, ministering to 2 different church communities takes up a lot of {unconventional} time. We are working most weekends and many week nights and while that means that we might not get into the office at the traditional start of a work day, that also means that projects or household things other families accomplish on weekends don't always fit in that same spot for us. 

So. My solution, which is in no way profound, has been trying hard to (1) Pick 1 or 2 us/home things to do at a time and (2) to not let time deter my progress. Maybe I don't have a solid block of time to wash, dry, fold, AND put-away laundry, but I just get as far as I can. Last night, I unpacked the rest of our suitcases and got some laundry washed and dried; this morning, laundry went in as I jumped in the shower, which was at least one less thing to do when we get home from work tonight. Same thing applies to errands. In the last couple of days we have gone on several little errands runs as we have had time. Would it be nice to just get everything done at one? Of course. but we are making life work with the time we have.
I'm sure many of you who have been managing your homes for a lot longer than me are reading this and smiling to yourself, remembering the early days of figuring out your own family norms. However, to anyone reading this who is new at this married adventure or even just living on your own for the first time, I wish I had better advice than the reality that you just have to make the most of whatever time you have and get something done, but I really don't. My encouragement though is that doing something does make a difference. You will feel better, something will be accomplished that wasn't before, and to me, that is a win :) 

Our various unpacking/Christmas messes these last few days. Messes look classier in black and white right?! :) 

Friday, January 2

Back home.

In the 7 years that Adam and I have known each other we have taken a ton of roadtrips together - at least 2 or 3 per year and I always love the range of emotions and events that happen when you are in a car with someone for hours on end. Sometimes it's silly, sometimes it's serious, maybe sleeping, coffee stops (Read: bathroom stops), snacks, sing-a-longs, life chats...its a unique way to spend time with anyone! But I love traveling together, one of my favorite kind of adventures.

So today, 40 hours of worth of roadtripping in the last week and our adventure has finally brought us back home. (Ironically I am writing this post from the car as we had to run out to a basketball game for work once we were back!) I love that home is so welcoming, even though tomorrow morning it will look a little less so as I consider the unpacking and laundry to be done. I'm not even super sure what day of the week it is, so I suppose tomorrow will be a day of adjustments all around :) For tonight though, the laundry  & everything else can wait. We are home.

Thursday, January 1


New Year's Eve is one of my favorite nights of the year, mainly because of the fireworks & the excitement of what the fresh start of a new year holds but the champagne toast & midnight kiss aren't too bad either.

This year we rang in 2015 with Adam's parents, which after getting up at 3am that same day to drive 12 hours from his sister's house back  in time for church, the fact that we all were still awake at midnight to celebrate was an impressive feat!

As many friends on social media have been posting all the best moments from this past year and of course things they are resolving to do differently, I considered what I would include on our list and I just kept coming back to all of the people we get to share life with each day. In 2014 we got to minister to our church communities, share life with friends and see all of our family. For 2015 I am excited for more of the same. It may sound cheesy or overly simple but it's true. Whoever your people are, I hope that you focus on how great it is to get to spend any part of a year with them. 

Romans 15:13 is one of my favorite Bible verses and I think it is so appropriate to consider as a new year starts. It says: 

"I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit."

Whatever each day of this year brings, that's my prayer. That we all would be overflowing with hope, joy, and peace that can only come through God. So enjoy your people, love God. I think we can do that right?! :)

Happy 2015 everyone!